Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

The Gift of Imperfection
—Theresa Bonopartis, Lumina Director
http://www.postabortionhelp.org
One of the things you hear over and over again in the post
abortion ministry from those who have aborted their children is,
“I cannot believe I did this.” They are tortured by the fact that
they have participated in the deaths of their own children, and
they deny that fact to themselves and others. “How could I have
done this?” “I paid for them to kill my child!” When the harsh
truth sets in, and the confusion is gone, it is almost too much
to bear.
It is heartbreaking.
Today, we live in a society that wants to obliterate human
imperfection. We act shocked if we fail at something, or fall short
of a goal. We cover up truths, and brag about achievements as
if these things define us. We attempt to control every aspect of
our lives, in a sense, to be our own “gods.” This sad reality
extends to society’s destructive attitude toward unborn children,
whether they are “perfect” or not.
Lately, we have begun to hear more and more from a population
of couples who aborted their “wanted” unborn child because
of some perceived deficiency. More and more, doctors not
only seem to encourage abortion, but are blatantly suggesting to
parents that it would be selfish to give life to their children.
Turning the truth on its head, many are now calling infanticide
a “compassionate” solution.
What a loss to our society! The call to grow in love that these
children would have brought to their families is being wiped away
by this false sense of perfection. The love which is there to be given
and received, is denied as we are encouraged to become more selfcentered.
As post abortive women and men move closer to being healed,
they become capable of recognizing their own imperfections. They
can accept the fact that they rejected the precious gift of life. But
they also come to know that Jesus can transform their sense of
deep loss. God’s perfection is finally acknowledged, and also His
ability to bring good out of misery. In His immense mercy, Jesus
uses the very children who were aborted as the holy means to bring
their parents and others to Him.
Yes, God uses even our worst sins to help us. Imperfection can
actually become a gift, knowing that all good comes from Him, and
that without Him we are capable of doing so much harm. May
each suffering couple be healed by this love and united with their
children in heaven, the only place where true perfection exists.
Theresa Bonopartis