Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

There is a
saying that many women are socially aborted before they ever step foot into a
clinic.

Threats of
rejection by boyfriends, spouses, family members and friends are often the
motivating factors in making the decision to abort. Thoughts of abandonment and
alienation by loved ones, often too painful to bear, make it seem easier to
choose between those familiar, and an unborn child never seen, or belief that
the child does not even exist yet.

But, the
reality of abortion often sets in, with birthdays never celebrated, hugs never
given or received, anniversary dates, and an ever-present void filled with
guilt, shame and grief.

Social
abortion however, does not end with the death of the unborn child. As “OK” as
abortion is suppose to be, it carries a stigma. No one likes to speak of it
unless it is in broad terms. It often governs our political outlook. “Pro
choice” or “ pro-life” candidates are often embraced or discarded on their
position on the abortion issue, but the personal pain of abortion is avoided
like the plague. People are just not comfortable with it.

I have
gotten into “discussions” with some pro lifers who feel a need to remind those
who are post abortive of the severity of their sin. I have seen the use of
saying such as “abortion is homicide”, and “abortion is murder” do more harm
than good. Many find it condemning and judgmental. I have been chided for
speaking out against it, being told to be careful, I will “turn some pro lifers
off”. Little regard seems given for the souls those words are killing.

The pro
choicers also seem to abort the women once an abortion has been completed. The
denial of the very real suffering of tens of thousands of women
experienced  after abortion, is regarded
as nonexistent, as if they had no right to their feelings or the pain they are
living in.

The media
also seems to display the “politically correct” message, avoiding printing of
research to the detrimental effects of abortion on women or categorizing
underage girls who seek abortion as “young women” instead of the minors they
really are. Society is left feeling they have no right to require a child who
cannot get an aspirin without parental consent to get a life altering procedure
like an abortion without their families knowledge. Or that full disclosure of
the dangers of abortion to women is something that should be unheard of.

The
prevalent message still seems to be “we all know better than you…let us do
this.” I have come to find that is not true. Women themselves are being aborted
by both sides of the issue,  intentional
or not.

“Freaky
Ally” wrote to me the other day. She is a 15 years old, distraught over an
abortion her mother made her have. I kept thinking of Ally seeing the shirt
“abortion is homicide”. I think it would be enough to send her over the edge.
No one needs to remind her she killed her child. She lives with it each day. It
is her baby that she will never hold in this life.

I have also
been told by some, that it is not their responsibility to guard speech for
those post abortive. Perhaps these people need to be reminded of the
magnitude of people abortion effects. Everyone knows someone…everyone is
touched…those post abortive are everywhere.

Organizations
such as NARAL have carried abortion to the other extreme, celebrating as if the death of an unborn child is something to be celebrated. As if
women joyfully seek out abortion.

The taking
of a life can come in all forms. Perhaps all these people need to still their
own voices and listen to the voices of the many who are suffering abortions
after effects in silence. Perhaps these people need to look at whom they are
aborting in their hearts before and after the actual abortion takes place.