Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

If you are like I was, I found it very hard to ask for, or
accept help from anyone after my abortion. I had major trust issues and did not
want to be vulnerable… the vulnerability of my abortion both before and
after, were enough to last a lifetime.

I would shy away from people offering help, convincing myself
I was not worthy to receive any..after all I did not want to “bother’ anyone
or, I was going to do it myself. Who needs people when they fail you anyway?

 It took me a long
time to admit that it was my pride that stopped me from asking for, or accepting
help. I was afraid of rejection, of being let down again, or letting people see my struggles. Now, I am
not talking about people who are not capable of being there, but good people
who truly wanted to help.

It was so hard for me at first to allow anyone to help me. I only did it out of desperation at first, and perhaps God brought me to
that place so I would see how much I needed to meet Him through other people…I
saw needing help as a weakness, but as I came to know Him I also came to learn that we need to allow
people to help us just as much as we need to help other people. "Love one another as I have loved you"

I love the 6^th Station of the Cross, when
Veronica wipes the face of Jesus. He, God Himself, does not push her away and
say “I am God, I do not need your help” instead, he humbles Himself and allows
her this gift of wiping His face, and in return for her kindness he leaves her the
image of His face.

When we feel like we do not want to ask for help or allow
other to help us, whether it is about our abortion and healing or any other
issue, let us remember Jesus and His humility and willingness in allowing Veronica
to wipe His face and reach out for the help we need.