Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

"What makes it worse is to hear people say " you did the right thing". When I went to the"Entering Canaan" post abortion retreat at the Sisters of Life, they say it is wrong, and that's why you feel so badly. They gave me
permission to grieve and to feel the sadness of the permanent choice that I made
which does carry very real consequences for one's soul to bear. It is not
something I could bear alone. They  helped me to confront myself,
admit what happened, mark the life with a formal ceremony, and begin to find
healing through the healing power of Jesus's forgiveness. (H)

One of the big lies of the pro abortion movement is trying to get women to believe they feel badly or guilty because any but the fact that they have taken the life of their babies. They put the blame on religion, or relationships, or anything but the abortion.

The words above hold true for so many women. No one needs to tell us what we did is wrong, what they need to do is stop telling us it was ok..we know it is not ok. To deny the wrong we have done only adds to the grief and shame and invalidates all we are feeling.

We are human, we make mistakes, and abortion is certainly a huge one, but pretending it was ok does not help us move past it and heal. Admitting it and looking at what happened and forgiving ourselves and others and asking for forgiveness is what helps us…all in the arms of Jesus Christ.