Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

I am speechless. That is something that does not happen very
often since my conversion. I usually have plenty to say because my trust is in
the Lord and not myself.  He took the
worst sin of my life, and brought good out of it. He showed me through my
horrific sin of abortion, the immense love and mercy He has, for not only me,
but for all sinners. What a gift for someone who deserves nothing but
condemnation!

It is because of this experience of this limitless mercy shown
to me in the face of such a terrible sin that I was able to repent. To look at
it before then would have been impossible. It was just too horrific. I did not repent before His Mercy, I
repented BECAUSE of His mercy.

So, it is with deep sorrow that I read a post on Jill Stanek’s
blog calling Whoopi Goldberg a “serial killer” along with this statement: http://www.jillstanek.com/archives/2009/10/i_didnt_know_th.html#comments

“I repeat, Goldberg is hardcore.
She is not repentant. She is causing other mothers to kill their children. She needs to suffer consequences for her
actions and behavior. Some would call that tough love. Toys R Us needs
to feel the pain to separate itself from her. She needs to be forced to look
herself in the mirror.”

When I responded to Jill’s
original post, it was an attempt to bring some understanding to post abortion and
the need to reach out with compassion to those suffering. It is in healing that
these women and men then become, as Pope John Paul the II said “the greatest
defenders of human life”.  Who knows
abortion better than those who have had them and mourn the loss of their children?

In close to 20 years of post
abortion work I have met very few women who aborted without pressure from one
source or another. Of course that does not make it right, abortion is never ok,
but it does help them to understand what happened and to heal.

I don’t know what happened to Whoopi,
but most people would agree, sex at 13 and a self inflicted abortion at 14 is
not a normal experience.  Anyone familiar
with post abortion stress would tell you it would follow that it would not be
surprising she would continue on to have multiple abortions. Whoopi needs our
prayers.

I am no fan of Whoopi's and for
sure she does a lot of damage by her denial and her attitude, and I certainly
agree she is no poster child for Toy r Us, but I also know that the
condemnation shown on Jill blog does a lot of damage as well to those seeking
help after an abortion. 

Do those of you out there know
what post abortive people suffer? Do you think no amount is enough? Just because it is not public does not mean it is not there. I know many women who cry themselves to sleep every night while other people think they are "ok" with their abortions. In fact, most times women do not share their pain, guilt and shame, but instead suffer in silence.

Do
you know denial is a mechanism to protect against trauma? Do you think your
condemnation will bring about a break in the denial or a stronger need to reinforce
it? Do you know the pain of having to face the fact that you bought into the
lies and killed your own child? Do you know what it is like to have a parent or
boyfriend or husband push you to abort? Do you know what it is like to be
abandoned by those you love? Do you know what  it is like to be 13 and have sex…obviously not
protected by those who are suppose to protect you? How much suffering would be enough
in your eyes?  Is there ever any mercy or are post abortive people doomed to hell?

To put your mind at peace I say, have no fear, if Whoopi is not
suffering already I can assure you at some point she will  suffer greatly for her abortions as will everyone
who has participated in killing their own children.

But the God of Mercy is there
waiting for them as He is waiting for everyone. He will bring them to His love
so they have the courage to look, and then He will lead them to His heart and
heal their brokenness. It is only through this love they will face the truth,
reconcile with Him, themselves and yes, their unborn babies, who are with Him in
heaven. One day they will be reunited in His love.

Yes, it may be hard to believe life can joyful again after you have participated in abortion, but it is not about us but about Him. A God of love and mercy who desires our healing no matter how horrific our sin. I for one am happy to know what a sinner I am, it is in this truth I know the immensity of that mercy and the magnitude of what He has done for me.