Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

From one of the women in the ministry…in answer to her question, yes you can forgive through Gods grace. Your forgiveness does not lay contingent on their repentance. It is something you choose to do for God and for yourself, and in fact that mercy shown may be the very thing that brings them to repentance. That of course, does not mean you have to continue the relationship with the abuser. Quite the contrary if the person is still abusive..you should never put yourself in harms way. It does mean, however, that you are freeing yourself from the grip  of the person.  Their admission or repentance is up to them…all you can do is pray for them. No easy, except through God's grace!

Of course, if the person may be abusing others, it is important to take action so it stops…

(If anyone in the NY has suffered specifically from sexual abuse, check out this group http://www.rthm.cc/wildflowers/about-the-wildflowers.asp)

"If
I were to relate to why it is difficult to forgive, I think there are
similarities between abortion and child abuse.  Both abortion and child abuse is
very personal.  Both appear to make the experience appear "normal"  but the
human psyche knows that it's not normal.  My father used to say that we should
be grateful that he is a kinder and gentler father than his father was.  He
would say that society nowadays are raising wimps rather than strong tuff kids. 
Abortionists tell you to that you're doing the right thing.  It would be more
compassionate to spare this child a life of suffering.  When society denies the
experience, the human psyche holds on to the experience.  I know what I
experienced was real; how can you tell me it's not?  I sometimes feel like I
would go insane if I were to deny the experience.  Holding on to the reality of
the memory keeps me sane in a world that would rather deny the
experience.

I
believe that forgiveness can be achieved once the experience is acknowledged and
processed.  When society denies the experience, the human psyche holds on to the
experience.  Alternatively, when society acknowledges the experience that's when
true forgiveness can be achieved.  The key here is reconciliation.  God will not
turn away a repentant sinner.  But repentance is required.  God's justice is for
the unrepentant.  So how is a post-abortive person capable of forgiving an
unrepentant boyfriend, parent, abortionist, etc?  How is a child-abuse victim
capable of forgiving an unrepentant abuser?  By definition, it doesn't appear
possible. "       

LV