Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

"i feel like this picture. Feelings of dispondency and solemness are
coursing through me. Best Friend 3 sent me an email. i know she cried
when i hung up yesterday. i feel hollow and empty. i miss my baby. Mum
and i had a conversation about the guy and the baby, and what would
have happened if i didn’t terminate it. this is so hard. I feel like my
heart is missing. and nothing in the whole world can fix the scrapes on
my soul. Sanity is hanging on thread. I know i will have burn some
bridges. i want to see him. but i can’t face him. What will i say? What
can he say? i just want to lay in his arms until all the hurt
disappears…. but i know it won’t." http://shairascribes.wordpress.com/2010/02/16/50-days-later-the-hardest-things-in-life/

I wish I could say I do not hear words like this often, but the truth is I do, not only in our work and ministry, but more and more I see posts on blogs from women and men trying to deal with a past abortion. It is heartbreaking and my heart knows their pain all too well.

Abortion is not a quick fix. As we have said many times before, life does not return to pre abortion days. How can it? Life is altered forever…we participated in the death of our child and often , like this girl, the death of a relationship as well.

But, the good news is there is healing and hope. I know that too. You may never forget your abortion but there is a time when it will not cause the pain anymore. You can be at peace. There is a way to work past all the issues arising from the abortion. Will it take time, of course, but God is good and wants our healing and will walk with us through the pain.

I pray that this girl finds the help she needs. That she goes to someone who knows post abortion stress and will not deny her feelings or try to blame them on other things. She knows why she is hurting, she knows what happened. No one is laying guilt on her for acknowledging what she already knows. Some groups try to say that there are post abortion ministries that make women feel  bad and guilty, but the truth is she is already feeling bad and guilty and we will help her to work through her feelings to find peace, by understanding what happened on a spiritual, emotional and sometimes physical level.

Pray for her to find the help she needs…