Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

If you are like I was, I found it very hard to ask for or accept help from anyone after my abortion. I had major trust issues and did not want to be vulnerable… the vulnerability of my abortion and the time before and after were enough to last a lifetime.

I would shy away from people offering help convincing myself I was not worthy to receive any..after all I did not want to “bother’ anyone or, I was going to do it myself.who needs people when they fail you anyway?

 It took me a long time to admit that it was my pride that stopped me from asking for accepting help. I was afraid of rejection or to let people see my struggles. Now, I am not talking about people who are not capable of being there, but good people who truly wanted to help.

It was so hard for me at first to allow anyone to help me. I think I only did it out of desperation at first, and perhaps God brought me to that place so I would see how much I needed to meet Him through other people…I saw needing help as a weakness, but I came to learn that we need to allow people to help us just as much as we need to help other people. Both are good for the soul.

I love the 6^th Station of the Cross, when Veronica wipes the face of Jesus. He, God Himself, does not push her away and say “I am God, I do not need your help” instead, he humbles Himself and allows her this gift of wiping His face, and in return for her kindness he leaves her the image of His face.

When we feel like we do not want to ask for help or allow other to help us, whether it is about our abortion and healing or any other issue, let us remember Jesus and His humility and willingness to allow Veronica to wipe His face.