In the end this woman endorses "Exhale" as the place that helped her . She said it is neither pro life or pro choice..that is a joke…she obviously does not know much about them if she does not think they are pro choice…or "provoice" as they say. Their aim is to destigmatize abortion. A sincere reading of their materials would show that. What is "pro voice"? an attempt to make abortion non political, neither right or wrong, just somethng we do. Good luck with that one.
One thing I do agree with her on, politics should not be involved in the healing process, that however, does not mean people who have had healing should not be involved in the political debate..they have a right before everyone, because of their experience to speak to the truth of abortion.
Get your politics off my grief: After my abortion, neither pro-life nor pro-choice forces helped
Monday, May 2nd 2011, 4:11 PM
In a boldly improvised speech on the House floor in February, Rep. Jackie Speier (D-Calif.) admitted she had "lost a baby." Markai Durham, star of MTV's "16 and Pregnant" abortion special, feels "sad from time to time," and on NBC's "Friday Night Lights," Becky still dwells on her termination.
As a 26-year-old New Yorker who has no problem telling a stranger about the abortion I had at 19, I have found that people make two assumptions: that I am pro-choice and that simply being pro-choice would resolve any difficult emotions I have encountered.
Identifying with political ideology does not jibe with my more complicated experience. Grief might be normal, but dogmatic agendas have hijacked outlets for healing.
After my procedure, relief washed over me – just as I had read it would, in a report from the Guttmacher Institute, an offshoot of Planned Parenthood. Yet it was the kind of relief I have felt after losing someone to a prolonged battle with cancer: grateful the suffering had ended, but sorry my loved one had to go.
At first, I sought refuge in the pro-choice movement. In finding a community, I was coping. Our communication, however, sounded a little more like war rhetoric than sharing in a common bond. I heard myself sounding like a bumper sticker. "Fight for choice!" I hollered, as if war has ever been the answer.
Emotions, I learned, could be regarded as a chink in the pro-choice armor. Pro-lifers have long hyped "post-abortion syndrome," a condition the American Psychological Association continues to refute. As recently as January, a Danish research team reconfirmed that there is no evidence of an increased rate of mental illness after the procedure.
But three years after my abortion, I started having nightmares about babies. Awake, I missed my potential child. It was bewildering that I could feel so mournful about a decision that was supposed to buttress the architecture of my identity.
Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion 
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