Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

I just read a post by an abortion doula praising Exhale, a pro abortion, post abortion service for a  "social climate where each person’s unique experience with abortion is supported, respected, and free from stigma."

I just do not get that. Basically, what it seems to be saying is, even though you are in pain and suffering because you participated in the death of your unborn child, "we will deny what you did with you, and help you to go into denial and blame a host of other things for your feelings instead of your abortion".

Once again, abortion protected at any cost, for any reason.

If you gaze around Exhale's site, you will find they blame a host of other things for the feelings a woman may be having following an abortion. A relationship, your religion, your culture, etc ,etc. They tell women that tons of them from every background are having abortions, as if to say, it is no big deal. But, it is a big deal. Their child is gone, and no matter what the reasons they felt they needed to abort, it is still their child.

True compassion would acknowledge the true loss of abortion. True love for women would help them. True help does not instill guilt and shame, participating in the death of their child instilled guilt and shame. True love helps them to work through that. They are not judged but the act of abortion can certainly be judged.

Women have been mislead and lied to regarding abortion and its impact. They have, been made to believe it is a necessary and even easy decision, and that the feelings they have after are caused by anything but the abortion. It is unjust.

A couple of years ago, I was interviewed by some students from Berkley. The interviewer, knowing I was Catholic, said, "So, your faith caused you to feel guilt after your abortion ?" I replied, "No, my faith did not cause me to feel guilt. Seeing my dead aborted son laying in the bed next to me after my abortion caused me to feel guilt."

Abortion kills the unborn and hurts, (and still kills) countless owmen. It is not easy fix. You do not become unpregnant as if it never happened. Tobecome unpregnant you need to kill your unborn child. Exhale may help people with to bury their feelings by plunging them deeper into denial, but as someone who gets calls from women in their 80's and 90's , you can run and hide, but one day you will have to deal with your feeling, and that is okay. There is true hope and healing after abortion. With true compassion and love, and a willingness to allow you to feel your feeling, a good post abortive program will allow you to express what you feel, not judging you, or blaming it on something else, but allowing you to express what you already know, abortion is the killing of your unborn child, and that is never good or easy.

We can hold the hand of people killing living children, we can try to remove the stigma of guilt they may feel, we can tell them countless people do this, but it will never make that ok…just because a baby is still in the womb does not make it any different.

Let's give women true compassion by allowing them to work through the truth(and there is only one truth) of what abortion is…that is when they will  find true compassion and healing.