Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

Came across this blog post this a morning. "Abortion and Grief" I thought it was interesting that jkvegh, a psychotherapist, ended her post with this statement…"**Please take note: I will not be allowing any comments from pro-life activists in regard to this post. Since I approve all comments before they are made public, you will be wasting your energy. This is a psychotherapy weblog written for clients and perspective clients to read and hopefully find some solace. In order to protect these people who might read this article and comments that follow, I will not allow them to be harassed any further. This is meant to be a safe and supportive place, not a debate circle. There are plenty of other venues to take action – it would behoove you to stay there."

While I understand she does not want anyone bashing post abortive people etc, I think posting that, kind of takes away her credibility…she could have monitored the comments without resorting to such statements.

Anyway,as a professional I found many of her  comments offensive and she seems to have no true knowledge of post abortive healing. "Once the decision has been made, if those around her do not agree, they will never let her live it down." Huh? How does she know that? What about the countless women who did not want an abortion and those around her who do not allow her to voice her feelings? There is a lot of presumption here and after doing post abortion work for 20 years and through my own experience, that statement alone make me believe she does not have a clue or is not willing to face and address many issues we go through.Yikes !

"In an attempt to be brave and strong, we often persevere and force our self to not look back." Or maybe we are not allowed to speak about it and no one wants to listen to us and so we learn to deny our feelings.

"A loss of any type brings about grief and sadness" This is not a loss of any kind, it is the participation in the killing of our unborn child. And no, society does not cause the guilt and shame, the fact that we did this does, but that does not mean we cannot heal if someone is willing to help us work through it all HONESTLY.

I know this woman probably means well, but she REALLY needs to learn about the dynamics of post abortion and allow women to truly deal with the impact it has had on them on multiple levels. Unless she does that she is not giving us solace but is only causing us more grief…..