“I probably would not even be here if you did not have that
abortion.” These are sentiments expressed by many siblings of aborted babies,
sentiments that bring up a host of feelings. Guilt for being alive, yet
grateful for the gift of life. Love of
their parents, yet disappointment and anger over the abortion. Questions of
whether they were wanted, desperation to understand, and most often than not, a
loneliness born out of the thought that they are isolated in their feelings.
Would my name be the same? Where do I go with all of these
feelings?
Providing a safe place for those who suffer from sibling
survivor guilt is very crucial. A place just
for them, where they can express all of their feelings without fear.
Fear of being judged because of feelings they have, fear of others judging
their parent who they love, and fear of hurting those who are already suffering
because of an abortion.
At Luminas “Entering Canaan Day of Prayer and Healing for
Siblings” they are free to do just that. For the past 3 years it has provided a
safe refuge for siblings from across the country as they share their feelings, and
work through some of the issues surrounding their lost brother or sister. A
place where they are free to be themselves and find out they are not alone as
they experience the retreat with others who have also suffered this loss.
As one sibling shared:” At the Lumina retreat, I made peace
with my siblings. In fact, I’ve sensed them as a benevolent presence in my
life, as people whose souls were sent by God to our family and who are still
linked to us. .. I am thankful to Lumina for helping me to
connect to them in a more spiritual way. A lot of people have lost
siblings to abortion and we need to be aware of our invisible family on the
other side. For me, it’s a comforting thought that no matter how
broken my earthly family is, I still have more family members to relate to,
somewhere! And, while I may never understand God’s will, that doesn’t
seem to matter so much as the love that can still possibly exist between me and
my siblings, born and unborn.” – IR
Or another: “For the first time in my life I was in the
presence of other siblings who cold totally relate to my pain/issues. It gave
me the confidence to keep sharing my pain/story in the hopes that others can
also receive the healing and connections I was blessed by.” Renee
On March 2, 2013, Lumina will be having its fourth retreat
day for siblings…for further information please call 877-486-4621 or email
lumina@postabortionhelp.org.
Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion 
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