Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

by Kristi Burton Brown

February 28, 2013 (LiveActionNews.org) – Abortion is anything but a
simple choice. It affects not just the child who dies in an unimaginable
way. It affects not just the mother who suffers through the abortion or
the father who could do nothing to stop it. Abortion affects the family
at large – grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and brothers and
sisters.

It can be a very strange thought to wonder why you were chosen to live
while your brother or sister was chosen for death. Why did you survive?
What would your sibling have been like, acted like, looked like? Would
he or she have resembled you? Become your best friend? Years of memories
you should have had were wiped out before you ever knew that your
brother or sister should have existed. Indeed, abortion is anything but
simple for the brothers and sisters of aborted children.

Barb, who has worked with the AAA Center for Pregnancy Counseling for nearly thirty years, writes this:

Abortion teaches children that they have worth because they were
conceived in the right conditions and at the right time; that they have
value because their parents want them. Up to 50% of all American
children have lost a brother or a sister to abortion, making it much
more likely that they live with a performance view of love: I was born
because I was wanted therefore I better perform so they will continue to love me.

Barb also talks about the reality of survivor’s guilt among siblings of aborted children and about the horrors ofselective reduction,
in which one or more babies in a multiple pregnancy (twins, triplets,
quadruplets) are selected for death and aborted while the rest are
allowed to live. Mark I. Evans, a doctor known for doing selective reductions, explains the heartache from
his own perspective. Imagine the thoughts of surviving siblings once
they discover what happened to their brothers or sisters, right next to
them in the womb:

It’s a very hard procedure, because the baby is moving, and you are chasing it. That is what is very emotional — when the baby is moving and you are chasing it.

Angie (not her real name) is the sister of two aborted children. She
was the oldest child and the only girl allowed to be born. Her only full
biological sibling was aborted in a back-alley procedure, just a few
short years after Angie’s birth. Angie’s mother then went on to have two
sons – Angie’s half-brothers. They were five and nine years younger
than her. When Angie’s mother got pregnant for the last time, she
decided she was too tired to have a fourth child. So she flew to New
York, where elective abortion was legal at the time, and aborted Angie’s
last sibling.

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