Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

Came across a book I had gotten a LONG time ago, “How to Talk With Your Children About Your Abortion: A Practical
Guide for Parents,” by Philip G. Ney and Marie Peeters-Ney. For more
information, contact IIPLCARR/Hope Alive by phone at (250) 391-1840,
or email iiplcarr@islandnet.com.

Definitely worth the read!

here is an article from 2004 by Amy Sobie of the Elliot Institute about the same topic. I had forgotten all about it :

Talking With Your Children About Your Abortion

Amy R. Sobie

Theresa Bonopartis vividly remembers the day, more than 20 years
ago, that she phoned her doctor for the results of her pregnancy
test. She was 18, unmarried, and scared. The doctor’s words confirmed
what, despite months of denial, she already knew–she was almost four
months pregnant.

She and her boyfriend decided to marry. But then her parents
kicked her out, telling her to forget she was their daughter. She and
her boyfriend broke up. Her father urged her to have an abortion,
which she initially resisted. But without a job, housing, or any
support, she felt she had no choice but to give in.

For years, she tried to forget about the second-trimester
abortion– a grueling experience involving 12 hours of labor and
seeing the body of her unborn child. After marriage to an abusive
husband, the birth of two sons, a divorce, and a semi-reconciliation
with her parents, she went back to school to earn a counseling
degree. But within a year of starting her first job, she was burnt
out, struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts.

Although she had returned to the Catholic faith in which she’d
been raised, she didn’t believe God could forgive her for what she
had done. Finally, feeling she had nowhere else to turn, she sought
counseling from her parish priest. For the first time in ten years,
she began to feel a sense of peace and healing. But one question
still nagged her–should she tell her two sons about her abortion?

“I felt that God was calling me to speak about abortion, but I
knew I couldn’t unless my children knew first,” she said. “I was
concerned about how it was going to effect them and I thought they
would never forgive me. I was terrified they would hate me.”

the rest is here: http://afterabortion.org/2004/talking-with-your-children-about-your-abortion/