Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

Just caught this video on Jill Stanek's blog. It does not surprise me that the press (and I am sure the clinic) would choose to interview a couple facing an adverse prenatal diagnosis to answer to the "buffer zone" decision, despite the fact that, (1) these circumstances are not the majority of abortions done at the clinics, (2) so many of these babies are misdiagnosed, but even if they are not, there are better way, and (3) abortion does not resolve the problem, which I am sure this couple will come to realize.

True help for adverse prenatal diagnosis comes from places like "Be not Afraid" where they would have received the help they needed to work through this difficult time in their lives without feeling like the only solution is to kill their child. So much pressure is put on couples to abort when they get an adverse diagnosis, making them think that it is the loving thing to do for all involved. Sadly, most find in the end that is not true, like this couple.

Here is a post from the dad's blog.  It is heart wrenching and I can definitely see why he feels the way he does. They are suffering so much already and I have no doubt it was a very difficult heart wrenching decision for them. There is truth to the fact that those outside clinics have no idea what some of these couples have been through. Of course they're angry at them claiming they "saved" babies. The one thing that it seems people do not understand is that many people are walking into an abortion clinic because they felt they could not even save their own babies; what makes these people think they can save them? Who is more aware then they are that their baby is going to die, and yet I have no doubt that this couple believed this was the loving decision to make. Every couple I have worked with that aborted because of an adverse diagnosis believed that. I believe this couple loved their child very much.

However, he mentions having seen an aborted baby because of "people" like the protesters and it makes him angry, but, that is the truth of abortion. Just because you do not see it, does not make it so.  That is the reality that is abortion and we should be angry when we see it, not at the protesters, but that it is going on to the tune of 54 million since Roe vs Wade.

I have heard way too often the lines the medical profession feeds these couples who receive an adverse diagnosis and even clergy who have supported an abortion decision. They are made to feel guilty for even considering bringing the pregnancy to term, but in the end, as difficult as it is, those that allow nature to play out are the ones who have peace.

While I can definitely understand their decision to abort in light of the situation, and can empathize with what happened and agree with him in how terrible it was to have to walk into that clinic with people yelling at them when they are already suffering so much, in the end – abortion is not the answer. However, I often say there is more than one way to abort someone and I truly believe that.  Yelling at someone that they are a "child killer," etc., is not going to change hearts.  The answer here is to spend time making sure alternatives like "Be Not Afraid" are available to these couples so that they can get the true loving help and support they need in a very difficult situation. Most of them are never given alternatives and do not know help like this is available to them. Maybe if time was spent doing just that, making sure the information is available in every church and doctors office, then couples would be able to know abortion is not the way to go.

Praying for peace for this couple.  I am so sorry they experienced this.