I just read “The 8 Biggest Lies About Abortion, Debunked by the Year's Most Important Rom-Com." They were referred to in a review on NARAL’s blog on the new “romantic comedy” about abortion,“Obvious Child.
Before I go on to say they are “Obvious Lies,” I will list them here.
1. Abortion is a very painful procedure.
2. Abortion clinics are gross and scary.
3. Abortion is not a real option for women.
4. Only babies can bring couples together.
5. Abortion is dangerous and often leads to death.
6. Abortion leads to depression and tears couples apart.
7. The price of an abortion is not a barrier for women.
8. Men shouldn't have to get involved with pregnancy.
Now, all this can seem a bit confusing, remember, these are the 8 biggest lies about abortion. I experienced abortion, and I have worked in post abortion ministry for 20 years with thousands of women, and I have to say I had to chuckle at some of this. Looking at each "lie" below, I will give a quote from their list that supposedly “proves” they are true, and then comment from the point of view of those of us who have been there.
1. Abortion is a very painful procedure.
“The bottom line is that the common perception that abortion is somehow gruesome and physically harrowing is not the experience of the majority of women.”
This may be true from the perspective of the woman who was shielded from what was actually happening, (or someone with no moral compass at all), but any woman who has seen the truth would disagree. Having seen my aborted son in the bed next to me I can confirm it is more than gruesome! As for the “majority” of women, how would she know? Especially when they deny the experiences of those of us who speak out about their personal, gruesome, and harrowing physical experience.
2. Abortion clinics are gross and scary
“In contrast, Obvious Child's clinic housed competent staff who could offer guidance and advice. Everything from the color of the walls to the questions that the provider asked were vetted by Planned Parenthood in an effort to more accurately depict what abortion clinics feel and look like.”
Really? Does the author realize “Obvious Child” is a movie? One look at Live Action's videos or a clinic like Gosnell's would confirm who is lying here. And guidance and advice? I pity the poor soul who asks Planned Parenthood for advice, especially if it is a 15 year old!
3. Abortion is not a real option for women.
“When a woman comes to a guy she slept with once and says she is eight weeks pregnant, it's more than likely that the abortion option is going to be brought up at least once.”
Perhaps they do not understand what is meant by “real option?"
4. Only babies can bring couples together.
“But Obvious Child tells a different story. What brings the film's two main characters together in this case isn't the baby — it's actually the decision to have an abortion."
This one really cracks me up. Again, MOVIE ! It is no secret that over 50% of relationships end after an abortion, and that the abortion experience can impact future relationships. So, now we are going to promote the idea that abortion that brings couples together? PLEASE…even the hardest heart knows in the majority of cases that is not true.
5. Abortion is dangerous and often leads to death.
“Although the risk of dying from an abortion is so low it's statistically 0%, almost 1 in 10 women on film end up losing their life from their abortion. It's a warped version of reality and one that makes very little sense given that abortion is a legal, low-risk and safe procedure that only takes about5 to 20 minutes. A woman is actually more likely to die from giving birth than from an abortion.”
Tell that to the families of all the women who have died from abortion. Why is it that when abortion was illegal the deaths of women were the supposed factor for getting abortion legalized and now they trivialize the deaths of so many women as non significant? Tell that to the families of these women who died from supposed "safe, legal, abortion."
6. Abortion leads to depression and tears couples apart.
“In Revolutionary Road, abortion doesn't only kill Winslet's character, it also causes conflict in her personal life. It makes sense given that the film is based in the 1960s before abortion was legal, but the problem is that we rarely see the issue in a positive light. More often than not, it seems abortion in film is treated primarily as a plot device designed to drive conflict in a woman's life.”
That’s because it does. There are countless women who have had abortion since its legality who are suffering and have conflict because of it. Women suffer from depression and many become suicidal and do commit suicide.
"The problem is that we rarely see the issue in a positive light", because there is nothing positive about killing an unborn child no matter what circumstances you are in . If you can have an abortion and merrily go on your way with no thoughts or feelings of sadness or regret I feel sorry for you. There is a denial in the pro abortion movement of the severity of the impact of abortion. From "stigma," to a romantic comedy, they desire to make abortion an everyday event, no big deal, but that is never going to happen. Women are called to nurture and it is against our natural instinct to take the life of our children.
Perhaps the impact of abortion on these two Charlottes and hundreds of others, is not significant to them but it is to the majority of people.
7. The price of an abortion is not a barrier for women.
“Since Obvious Child takes place in the large urban metropolis of New York City, a city with greater access to reproductive health services, Donna doesn't have trouble finding a clinic. But she still is shocked to find out that the procedure will cost her $500, which she describes as an entire month's rent. Like many other women in this country, Donna struggles to come up with enough money to cover the cost on her own.”
Really? Only one comment here, where can you live in NYC for $500 a month rent?
8. Men shouldn't have to get involved with pregnancy.
“The most annoying thing about films like Juno is that they propagate the idea that pregnancy and children are solely a woman's responsibility, when in fact, the last time I checked, it takes two people to make a baby. So many movies like Raising Helen or The Switch perpetuate the myth that women can do it all alone.
News flash: They shouldn't have to.
In Obvious Child, the character Max shows up with flowers on the day of Donna's abortion. He accompanies her to the clinic and helps her recover afterward. He holds her hands, watches a movie with her and refills her water bottle.”
This one perhaps is the most perplexing. Aren’t they the ones who have been telling men for years it is the woman's body and the women's hoice? Oh yeah, wait a minute, we switch that around and it becomes okay if it rationlizes their arguement.
In conclusion, I would like to add the 9th biggest lie about abortion:
9. The people who wrote the 8 Biggest Lies actually believe they know what they know what they are talking about.
Geez…
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