Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

I have focused on siblings of aborted babies for many years. It first came to the forefront when I told my own living children about their aborted sibling. It was a tough time. 

Thanks be to God I was healed from my abortion, and so was able to hear whatever it was they needed to say and not take it personally. I was also able to answer any questions they wanted to ask. Not easy, but necessary.

It was a long road, but lots of talks, prayers, counseling, and with time and God’s grace, we were brought closer together and not further apart, from the experience. Together, we all mourned the loss of a family member.

It is not unusual for a young adult to have multiple siblings lost to abortion. Perhaps both their mom and dad had abortions before they met, or even one within their relationship. So many families are missing the worth and dignity of lost children.

Facing the brutality of the death of a sibling can bring on many painful conflicting emotions. The love a child feels for their parent can be overcome with anger and the lingering question of whether they themselves were, in fact, wanted or not, can play in their heart and mind for years.

Secrets of family dynamics are played out because of the woundedness of its members without anyone even recognizing the underlying cause. 

If I could say one thing to all those wounded by abortion out there – it would be to remind them of their own dignity and worth, of the value of their life and how much they are loved. Most often, the abortion had nothing to do with the living siblings, but was a result of some failing on the part of one or both of their parents, human parents who err and often fall for the lies of the abortion agenda.

Over the past five years, we have had healing retreat days for postabortive siblings and we will be doing our first weekend this spring with the help of Father Mariusz Koch, CFR. We are excited to be able to offer this most important opportunity and time to heal the hearts and souls of those who are suffering this loss.

Time is bringing the issue of postabortive siblings to light. More and more places are beginning to investigate how to minister to those who have lost a sibling to abortion. This is a wonderful thing as more and more people find out about a missing family member. Lord knows, there are millions of them out there.

As we join together as the families God intended us to be to fight the lies of abortion, may we all always remember God’s loving plan and spiritually reclaim our family members lost to abortion with the knowledge that He is all merciful and desires our healing. May we also always remember our own dignity and worth in His eyes uniting us all in His love.