Mark Ruffalo's Reaction to His Mom's Abortion Isn't the Whole Story
The impact on children of being told about an aborted sibling should make mothers think twice.
Theresa Bonopartis
Aleteia
The question of telling one's children about a prior abortion has been debated by many. Some believe “the truth will set you free." Maybe it will in this case, but while the mother may feel unburdened by revealing her secret, she must also consider what this knowledge is doing to her living children. Countless siblings have been swept into a downward spiral – trying to find peace and understanding and their very worth.
I read an interview with Theresa in a newsletter written by the Sisters of Life, where she mentioned Lumina’s Sibling Day. I thought about my siblings deeply for the first time … ever. It hit me that had any of them been born, I would not have been “the eldest,” but the second youngest. The more I thought about, the more I felt a certain identity crisis. Would my mother have treated me better if I were the second youngest child? I’ve mused that perhaps my sister and I would not have been born at all if she had had all the previous four children before me because she would not have wanted an even larger family. — R.
Would I even be here if that sibling had not been aborted? This is just one of the haunting questions that confront them. Would my name be the same? Was I wanted? Why am I alive and not my sibling? It could have been me. What would life be like if my brother or sister had been allowed to live?
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