Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

Yahoo Parenting has an article "What Happened When My Daughter Asked About My Abortion" Raven Snook March 3, 2015

Another quest to make stigma go away, justify and make abortion acceptable . I understand. Unless you have had healing the thought of it being anything but okay is unbearable.

Sadly, these women do not seem to realize the impact abortion has on their living children's lives, and instead are just focused on their own feelings.They seem to think if you talk enough, share enough, convince them enough, it will make it okay, but the devastation to siblings is real and their very identity is put into question.

The author, who has not told her children states, "I’ve never been secretive about my abortion. My friends and family know and I’ve even performed a monologue about it onstage." Yet she denied it to her daughter. If it is so okay why? And why would you go public before the very people it would matter most to  know?

I get the fear, and it will impact her, but healing is possible and your child will still love you. You are her mom. Having her find out because you have gone public is just another wound she will have to deal with. You cannot force yourself to believe it is okay..that is why this strategy is not working no matter how many people speak out.

Another person says speaking about it will change things.  “That’s how abortion moves from the abstract to the real,” Merfish says. “You don’t think about a fetus, you think about your grandmother, your aunt, your mother.” I found this the saddest of all…believe me it is already very real. People carry the burden for years. Let's deny what we did, lets put the focus someplace else so we do not have to look.let's get sympathy so it is okay..forget about the baby or anyone else? It does not work. People may sympathize but they don';t forget the baby. So sad…

I pray these women achieve true healing. A healing that will mend both them and their living children and all who suffer because of abortion. May these women recognize that the stigma etc, is there because it is just not in our human nature to kill our children. While we can totally understand why a women would abort, it does her no good to try to make it a natural occurrence, and it still is not right.

Praying for their peace and healing.

Our Sibling retreat is March 13-15 . Healing is possible