Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

"The measure also contains a less-discussed provision that would allow the father to sue the doctor for "emotional and psychological distress" if he disagrees with the abortion, regardless of his relationship with the woman having the procedure."

There is plenty of controversy over Wisconsin Assembly Bill 237 which would ban abortion after 20 weeks of pregnancy. It also contains a provision that would allow fathers to sue the doctor for "emotional and psychological distress." Personally, I feel this is long overdue. Too many men have had to stand by powerless while their unborn child is killed.

Like every other abortion issue, this Huffington Post article shows there are plenty of misrepresentations by the other side:

Opponents of the bill point out that less than 1 percent of abortions occur after 20 weeks, and the women who seek them have often discovered severe medical problems with the fetus that were not clear in earlier tests. Marcy Stech, a spokeswoman for the progressive women's PAC EMILY's List, said the Wisconsin bill is "extreme, outrageous and profoundly wrong."

"A woman’s right to choose is hers and hers alone," Stech said. "Scott Walker is the last person on earth who should be telling women how to make their deeply personal decisions."

Personally, having had an abortion myself at 20 weeks, and working with post abortive women and men for over 20 years I am more than a little sick of the "deeply personal decision" excuse that they make their mantra.

It was not my decision and frankly it was not the free decision they try to make it out to be for most of the people I see. Women are constantly coerced by boyfriends, husbands, life situations and family members. I wonder if Marcy Stech of Emily's List will be as quick to speak out about the case in the Daily News hitting the paper today, about a teenager 8 months pregnant held down by her family and punched and jumped on until she aborted. They then took her dead unborn baby and put it on the grill to get rid of the evidence. I am sure the silence from Marcy will be deafening. Somehow, these cases do not seem to have a place in their supposed concern for women and "choice".

As for a baby feeling pain, I have no doubt about it. Having also been coerced into abortion as a teen I saw my aborted son and felt him thrashing around inside of me as he died, that he was able to feel pain. It is ridiculous to say he did not. What happened to truth and woman's right to know it? Is abortion so much of a god now that we see and believe what we want rather than what really is?

 They can also use the excuse that many of these abortions are a result of an adverse diagnosis, but what they fail to mention is pressure put on these couples by the medical community and others to abort, a situation very far from “free choice, or a “personal decision”.

One of our families who aborted due an adverse diagnosis shared: “I aborted my daughter because we were told she had severe mental and physical deformities and was not going to have good “quality of life”- whatever that means.  My baby was full term when she was killed. After the abortion, she was actually given to us to see and hold. She was just a baby, not the monster they said she would be. A baby we wanted and loved immeasurably.  However, this love was twisted by evil, and we were convinced by doctors and others we trusted that the best thing to do for her was to terminate her life.”

Men being able to sue for emotional and psychological distress? I say good for them! It is about time! Yes, it is true many men coerced women, we have all be duped and lied to about abortion, and quite frankly, there are self centered men out there just as there are self centered women, but it is also true many did not want the abortion and were made powerless, unable to do anything while  their child was being killed.

As Theo, a man whose girlfriend had an abortion shared:  I called the abortion clinic and asked what my rights were; they said “You don’t have any”. I then asked them, “What do you do with the aborted babies? I want to bury my child.” They told me that it wasn’t a child, it was a fetus, and to never call again or they would involve the police. My hands were tied. I, as a father had no legal right to protect my child from a death committed by a “doctor”. I called everyone imaginable to see what my rights were and I got the same answer: “nothing”.

I hope the Wisconsin Assembly Bill finds a way to pass. It is way past the time to end the insanity of abortion at any time, any way, for any reason.