Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

In the next couple of weeks I will be featuring some of the brochures we have available at Lumina for healing from abortion. Any of them can be obtained by emailing lumina@postabortionhelp.org

CONNECTING THE DOTS

Everyone is familiar with the children's books where you compose a picture by connecting the numbered dots. Following the sequence, the scrambled image soon takes the form of an identifiable object.

What once seemed incomprehensible takes on a familiarity and confusion becomes understandable, leaving you free to bring it to life with color and then move on to the next picture.

In the quest for healing from a past abortion, each person has their own "Connect the Dots" book. A woman may overreact to people, places, things, or smells in the here and now because they are subconscious reminders of her past abortion. If these connectors are not identified, life can be a roller coaster ride, with anger, fear, resentment, anxiety, and other emotions triggered by the past, directing the course of the present and the future.

Each person has their own personal connectors depending on their experience of abortion, but many share common connectors.

A few common connectors may include:

• Abortion anniversary date
• Due date
• Babies
• Controlling people
• Being out of control
• Fear of abandonment
• Doctors/nurses
• Indecisiveness
• Lack of intimacy

Many women are aware they are overreacting but can’t explain the cause, sometimes leading them to conclude that they must be crazy. They have no idea that what is happening is a direct result of abortion.

Once they are able to identify their personal abortion connectors, they can step back and examine their feelings before they react to situations. The connecting dots will make up the picture and the power of the emotions can then be dealt with in the right context, within the abortion experience, instead of impacting current situations.

The rest of the brochure can be found here.