Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

I have been speaking about the impact of abortion on siblings for a very long time.

As a society we hardly give credence to the women and men, it seemed like voicing the harm to siblings would be long time coming, so I was pleasantly surprised to see this article in the New York Times.

Read the article and check out our sections on siblings…Next siblings retreat dates soon to be set.

My Invisible Brother

By Yiming Ma
Oct. 5, 2018

The year I turned 16, I asked my mother why I did not have siblings. Having immigrated to North America a decade earlier, my family had long since been freed from China’s one-child policy. Nearly all my high school classmates had siblings, and I wanted to know why my family had chosen differently.
My mother did not respond immediately. Then she looked away. “That’s not entirely true,” she answered at last.
“When you were 5 in New York, I became pregnant,” she said. “And we almost decided to keep him — your little brother.”
Eyes bulging, I barraged her with questions. But my mother stopped answering. A few days later, I asked again and confirmed: 11 years earlier my mother had aborted her pregnancy at 10 weeks.

Sometimes I find myself resenting my brother for never having been born.

here is the rest:

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/10/05/well/family/my-invisible-brother.html