Reclaiming Our Children: A Blog About Healing After Abortion

Anyone who is pro-life is more than a little excited about the amazing talks featured at the Republican National Convention regarding abortion. It was hard to believe it was even happening. I am sure many who were listening heard for the first time, the horrific reality about the killing of the unborn in the womb. Genuinely great information given in the limited time for each speaker. I was so grateful for them.

Millions sat in their living rooms listening.  It was a huge gift, but I could not help but think of the countless numbers of people sitting on their couches that are locked in shame, guilt, grief, and silent suffering because of abortion. The ones who found out the hard way about the devastation it causes, not only in the killing of the unborn, but in the lives of all those involved.

As someone who directs a healing ministry, I have not only met thousands of these people, I am one myself. Afraid of being judged I carried my pain alone to my own detriment, suffering from depression, anxiety, grief, and the paralyzing fear of being found out. Millions are living this way now.

Abortionist Dr Meera Shah of Planned Parenthood in Hudson Valley New York knows and acknowledges this silent suffering. She recently wrote a book she describes as “a labor of love”, titled,” You're the Only One I've Told –The Stories Behind Abortion.
The book collects those stories as they've been told to Dr. Shah who believes it will “humanize abortion and combat the myths and stigma surrounding it.“  It struck me how she seeks to “humanize” the abortion itself, but not the unborn person killed in the act. Suffering from abortion is not a myth but a stark reality for many.

Try as they might to destigmatize abortion, one look around shows the issue is only getting more passionate. To prove it is a “normal” part of life and in attempts to ignore the suffering it causes, some women have taken to wearing vagina hats degrading themselves in various ways in order to shock others into the acceptance and support of abortion. Sadly, this behavior does just the opposite.

In addition, the telling of your story alone is not going to bring the peace and acceptance these women are seeking. Women need to learn about the very real issues surrounding abortion and the ways in which it is impacting their lives. They also need to grieve the very real human life lost. The loss of their son or daughter.

Yes, what was missing at the Convention was one more talk. The voice of those who have suffered and mourn. Those who know abortions devastation but have also found healing. The voice that could reach those people sitting on their couches in silent suffering who already know all too well the horror of abortion because they are living it. What was missing was the voice of hope for those hurting. With the absence of this hope I fear these people will run in

the other direction feeling condemned and looking for acceptance anywhere they can find it. So many women support abortion for that very reason already. They believe, even though they are denied the truth, that the pro-abortion groups care for them and accept them.

Thankfully, there are countless places in the United States where those hurting can now find people who really care for them and they can find the help they need. The Convention would have been an amazing opportunity to let people know that along with abortions reality.

 It would have shown that despite what the pro-abortion crowd would like women to believe, pro-lifers in fact, do not only care about the unborn and women before abortion, but are also there caring for them after, helping them pick up the pieces of their life. Many of these organizations are run by those who have been there and understand what they are going through including the ministry run by Abby Johnson a convention speaker who is herself someone who has suffered from abortion.

There have been 60 million abortions in the United States since the passage of Roe vs Wade. Far from rare, almost everyone knows someone who has been impacted. While it was historical and totally amazing to hear the talks on abortion at the convention, my hope would be that we give a voice to those who know better than anyone the devastation of abortion, those who mourn.

To find help and hope of healing visit: https://supportafterabortion.com/ or lumina@postabortionhelp.org